Picking Up Girls in Kuala Lumpur
Kuala Lumpur is the capital of Malaysia, as well as the largest city. It has a population of over seven million if you count the metropolitan area too. I would say there are at least a million single Kuala Lumpur girls out there.
Other than that, it is known for having some of the least expensive five star hotels in the world.
Kuala Lumpur is known for plenty of natural wonders in its surroundings, amazing shopping areas, great food and lots of dynamics. Lots of expats move there to work or do business, not to mention more and more tourists.
And if there are tourists hanging around, I assure you there are lots of Malaysian girls looking for exotic hookups too. 😉
However, if you have been to Thailand or the Philippines, I must tell you the game is a bit more difficult here. Trying to meet girls in Kuala Lumpur is not all about walking down the street and getting approached by dozens of girls.
But then, if you follow a few simple rules, chances are you will get lots of hookups as well.
How to pick up girls in Kuala Lumpur
Picking up girls in Kuala Lumpur is about knowing who to talk to and how far you can go. I would say this is a matter of experience.
When compared to other Asian countries, Malaysia is a bit conservative. In other words, if you see a beautiful girl with a veil on, she is probably a traditional Muslim and she is impossible to pick up.
She may consider dating you if you are a traditional Muslim too, but this is it.
The same rule applies if you go on a beach – you see a girl in shorts and a T shirt, she is probably too conservative.
So, who can you go talk to? The most westernized she seems, the easier the target becomes. If you meet her in a nightclub, she is probably not too conservative. If you are on a beach, the more skin she shows, the better. Basically, it is just common sense.
Malaysia is a bit more difficult than other Asian countries because it is illegal for foreigners to have sex with Muslim local girls before marriage.
In other words, it is against the law to hook up with the majority of women. Does that mean you cannot meet girls in Kuala Lumpur? Does it mean you cannot get laid?
Nah. It just means you have to be discreet and go for the right girls. And trust me, there are plenty of available babes out there… 😉
Local dating culture in Kuala Lumpur
The local dating culture is pretty conservative. Practically, you are supposed to go out on a few dates before kissing and you may not get laid before marriage.
Conservative girls date with one purpose – marriage. Then, you will also find girls who are not that religious and will love a casual hookup, yet they will not take you to their families.
They will just have some fun with you. There is also the independent category – women with jobs and independent lives who do not live with their parents.
Like I said, the dating game is conservative with most women, but it depends where you find her. She is not too religious if you meet in a nightclub. She may also do whatever she wants if she is independent and not living with her parents.
Since you are an exotic breed, you will instantly draw such girls’ attention wherever you go.
The do’s and don’ts
When dating in Kuala Lumpur, you are expected to lead. You will choose the place (go somewhere fancy) and plan everything upfront. Regarding the place, choose a special bar or restaurant – that one of the kind venue that every big city has.
Let me make it clear – do not ask a girl for a date straight away. Get her number, then exchange texts for a couple of days before asking her out. She does not like to go in blindly, but she wants to know a bit about you.
Other than that, girls expect you to pay for what you do. It is common sense – you ask her out, you pay for it. Regardless of how fancy the place is, it will not drain you.
Do take the date over and guide the girl in the right direction. Sit next to her, but keep cool. Show her how special she is and get to ask about her life.
Do not make fun of her country or culture. Do not talk bad of anything related to Malaysia or Asians, even if you do not have bad intentions. She is allowed to do it, but you are not. Also, no touching or kissing attempts, unless she gives you some obvious signs.
What do Kuala Lumpur girls think of expat dating?
Girls in Kuala Lumpur are split in two categories. Some of them are raised to believe that foreigners come to their country to get cheap sex. Some others are less traditional and will find foreigners extremely exotic, so they will want to hook up.
There are more reasons wherefore they want to hook up – you look exotic, you could take them abroad and show them a better life, you have money and so on. If you are after sex, it is alright to spend a little. If you want a proper relationship, I recommend one of those independent women who can look after themselves without being needy.
Generally speaking, if you walk down the road holding hands with a Malaysian girl in a non touristic place, she will be judged. People will think she is after your money or a better life abroad. Therefore, expect to get some weird looks and people staring at you.
It is not so common in the touristy areas of Kuala Lumpur or the city center though, as well as areas frequented by expats.
How to get laid in Kuala Lumpur as a foreigner
If you want to know the easiest way to meet girls in Kuala Lumpur and get laid within minutes, there are hookers, prostitutes and massage parlors all over the place.
Do not get me wrong – it will not cost you much. You can get laid for as little as $8, yet foreigners are usually charged up to $15 or $20.
Then, you can get laid for free if you use this popular Malaysian dating app.
Finally, you have a more serious alternative – traditional dating, which will take more time, but will give you a meaningful relationship if you are after one.
Where to meet girls in Kuala Lumpur?
You can meet girls in Kuala Lumpur pretty much everywhere. There is a bigger selection of women during the day, but many of them are conservative, so you will have to dig deeper.
I find it a bit easier at night because conservative girls do not really go out clubbing and drinking. Plus, most girls will not go out in a club without their partners, so you can easily spot the singles.
The selection is smaller, but the concentration of single relaxed girls is higher. 🙂
I find the day game a bit difficult, but not impossible. Every now and then, it is fun going out during the day and getting to talk to some girls. The average Malaysian babe is conservative and will not respond to your approach, so get ready to face rejection. Keep in mind that these girls are usually virgin and more likely to get together with a conservative Muslim man.
My opinion? Cross this type off your list unless you spot the most beautiful woman you have ever seen in your life. Focus on Malaysian babes who dress like westerners or girls from nearby countries, like Thailand or China.
In other words, Bukit Bintang is the primary location to get hookups during the day. There will be lots of westernized Malaysians and tourists hanging around for a coffee, a few drinks or a meal. The area has plenty of cafés and restaurants, so you can literally spot singles everywhere.
Shopping areas are also a bit easy, but it depends. You will find many conservative girls too. Plus, you do not want to be seen going around the same shops over and over again or you will look like a perv. Just take a walk around, then settle for a coffee.
Some of the best malls to visit include:
The night game is much easier in my opinion. Conservative girls do not go out to party or drink, so you only gain access to the loose and relaxed babes. There is one more thing to pay attention to – make sure they are single. If you are after a relationship, make sure you are not flirting with a bunch of hookers or prostitutes.
Kuala Lumpur is one of those cities with a deeply concentrated bar scene. Go out to Changkat Bukit Bintang and you will love it there. I went out any random night of the week and I found plenty of hot ladies looking for hookups. The area is also full of tourists, so you will find girls from all over the world – not really a bad thing, is it?
If you are more into locals, Bangsar has a few single bars and clubs that you may like. There is one thing to know about the nightlife in Kuala Lumpur though. Alcohol is quite pricey. It does not reflect the costs of everyday life in the city. While everything else seems cheap, getting drunk will most likely dig a hole in your wallet.
Best pick up bars in Kuala Lumpur
You can meet girls in Kuala Lumpur in both bars and restaurants – not too many conservative girls there, unless you go at 2PM or so.
Some of the best restaurants I recommend include:
- Whimsy Malaysia
- Kurata Japanese Fine Dining
- Tamarind Springs
No one goes there alone, so I obviously recommend having a friend with you. You are less likely to travel by yourself anyway, right? If you do, hanging around in bars could be better.
Here are some of my main locations:
- Sky Bar
- View at G Tower
- Heli Lounge Bar
- Mai Bar
- Sky Lobby Lounge
Again, it might look a bit sketchy if you go there by yourself and start approaching women. You need a buddy. These fancy places are also suitable for dates.
Best nightclubs in Kuala Lumpur
Nightclubs in Kuala Lumpur are your best places to meet single babes. You can go there alone, grab a drink and have some fun. You will find small groups of ladies here and there, by the bar or at the back. You can always say hello and join a group – just be super casual, friendly and act like a gentleman. I put my best clothes on too – you want to make a great impression.
Some of the best nightclubs to meet ladies include:
Some of these clubs also work like evening bars.
Best strip bars, massage parlors and gentleman clubs
Striptease is illegal in Malaysia, so there are no such things – at least not officially. You can find some places providing girly shows, but full nudity is not always there.
There are, however, some underground bars that provide striptease shows – I recommend asking taxi drivers. They know what is going on and will take you there. They might be a bit sketchy – if they look dangerous, stay out.
Massage parlors are more popular and you can get anything done for some extra money. Expect a full massage with a full sexual experience for around $20 or $25 – less if you only want a massage, a blowjob or a handjob.
Walk around the Pudu road and you will find lots of signs advertising for massages. The Jalan Alor, Jalan Bukit Bintang and Jalan Hicks roads are also worth a try, not to mention the Brickfields area.
Girl Friendly Hotels In Kuala Lumpur
Most places can classify as girl friendly hotels in Kuala Lumpur , but it is always worth checking upfront. Even if you do not and you are questioned about a girl, keep in mind that a good tip will work wonders.
Plus, I always tip receptionists before I even bring girls over, whether they check me in or they call me a cab.
Anyway, Anggun Boutique Hotel and Furama Hotel Bukit Bintang are probably some of the most cost efficient options. Rated at four stars and featuring all kinds of amenities, they are only minutes away from all the adult entertainment options in Kuala Lumpur.
You can have a restful sleep at night, but you are still close to all the fresh meat. 😉
If you want to be treated a bit better and explore even more facilities (especially some great swimming pools), Dorsett Kuala Lumpur and Grand Millenium Kuala Lumpur Hotel will not disappoint you. They are conveniently located close to the best places to pick up girls.
Read my in-depth review on all the girl friendly hotels in Kuala Lumpur
Red light district in Kuala Lumpur
There are three unofficial red light districts in Kuala Lumpur. They might feel sketchy at times, but they provide access to hundreds of different girls – not just Malaysians, but girls from other Asian countries too. You can find low end hookers who will bang you behind a building, as well as top notch escorts that will follow you to your hotel.
Jalan Bukit Bintang is perfect for gentlemen looking for sex workers. You will find erotic massage parlors, whorehouses and fresh meat on the road. Girls make eye contact with you and wait for an approach. The quality is not always the best – I would rate most of these girls six or seven.
I found it impossible to bang a nice nine or a perfect 10 in there. 🙁
Lorong Haji Taib is also worth a try, especially if you do not care about quality. If you just want a girl to bang, this is the place. There are lots of Indian hookers, as well as many third class girls. They are alright for a quickie to unload your balls.
Chow Kit is also rich in sex workers, but pay attention – there are many ladyboys hanging around.
Best online dating sites to meet girls from Kuala Lumpur
Now, let me ask you something… Do you want girls from Kuala Lumpur or girls who are in Kuala Lumpur? Let me explain… You can get on Tinder or Badoo and find a decent selection of girls. Since these are not the most popular websites around here, you will find many foreigners trying to find a hookup – whether Asian or not.
When it comes to actual dating websites, Malaysian Cupid is probably your best choice. All girls there are interested in foreigners, as this website caters to local girls and foreign men. They are also single, which is a plus. Some of them are interested in casual dating or hookups, while others are after longterm relationships.
They are not conservative, so you can get laid pretty quickly. I had a few nice dates over Malaysian Cupid and banged a few of them after the first dates.
Not happy with the selection? Give Asian Dating a try too, yet it covers the entire Asia, so the selection of Malaysian babes is smaller. The same rule applies to Date In Asia – still worth a try though.
Does religion play a factor?
Before I answer this one, let me ask you – what do you need a girl for?
If you are after a quickie or a night to fulfill your fantasies with Asians, religion is irrelevant. Get a hooker and she will do anything for you if you show her the money. That is her religion…
Now, if you are after casual hookups with locals, other Asians or foreign girls, casual dating will not bring the religion in. Religion is more important in a longterm relationship, yet not always. What is the chance to get together with a conservative girl? Unless you are a conservative Muslim, the chance is zero.
For westernized girls or independent women who do not live with their parents, religion will never be important. It may become a thing if the relationship heads towards marriage, but again, it depends on the girl.
Countryside girls versus city girls
When hooking up with girls in Kuala Lumpur, you will find girls raised in the city, as well as other Asian girls coming from China or Thailand, not to mention those girls living in the city, but coming from some villages in the middle of nowhere.
From personal experience, countryside girls can go in two directions. Many of them are extremely conservative and come from strict families, so you should not even bother approaching them. Their English is not the best either.
On the other hand, city girls have been exposed to tourists and foreigners, as well as modern television and fashion. They are westernized and can speak good English. They have some education and some of them may have nice jobs – meaning they no longer live with their parents.
Personally, I will choose a city girl every single time.
How much does a date in Kuala Lumpur cost?
I would say $50 is more than enough to have a prolific date in Kuala Lumpur. When I give you this number, I mean having lots of extra cash on you just in case, so chances are you will spend way less than that.
You will probably spend $20 to $30 for a nice meal in a super fancy restaurant. Having coffee or a couple of drinks should not exceed $10. Alcohol is expensive in Kuala Lumpur, so do not get your date too many cocktails.
Where to go on a date in Kuala Lumpur?
The bars and restaurants I mentioned above are excellent for a date. The restaurants are quite fancy, so only the wealthy locals go in there. They will not feel too expensive for a foreigner though. As for the bars, some of them have great views over the city – including a few rooftop bars. These are the right places to impress a lady.
I found a few other places that can impress a date and the best part is that many locals overlook them:
- Heli Lounge Bar – an actual helipad where you can admire the sunset while having a drink
- Hobby N Coffee – if she loves coffee, you two can make each other coffee in a class
- CuBs and CuPs – ideal if she has a dog, as this place lets you drink and dine with your furry friend
- Giant Pasar Malam – some sort of market with lots of stalls
What about scammers?
They are everywhere, but you need to use common sense to avoid them. I have never had any issues and I have been to Kuala Lumpur like 20 times. Let me give you a few tips.
If you ask a girl out, tell her how excited you are to spend some time alone with her. This way, you will weed out gold diggers who often bring their friends over for free drinks and food. You are paying, right?
If she keeps telling you how sick her mother is or how hard it is to pay rent, she is probably waiting for you to offer to give her some money – creeech, gold digger!
Prices for hookers range between $5 (for a bad five) and $12 (for a nice 10) for locals. Foreigners are expected to pay more, up to double, so you may spend up to $20 for a 10. If you are charged more than that, move on.
I guess this is pretty much it… Use common sense and no matter how good sex is, you can find better babes out there if she seems sketchy.
How to get around in Kuala Lumpur
Walking is alright, but annoying at times – motorists do not always follow signs and many traffic lights fail to work. Just be extremely careful when crossing the road. Cycling? Out of discussion. Sidewalks are in a terrible state, while the roads are full of drivers who have no clue what they are doing… Just avoid it!
KL Sentral is the largest train station in this part of Asia, so there are obviously lots of connections – ideal for long city distances, as well as other cities or nearby areas. Buses are cheaper, but take more time, as they are stuck in traffic and stop everywhere. They are also overcrowded – good for a trip, just to experience this feeling. It is definitely an adventure.
Taxis are notorious for scamming foreigners. Insist that they use a meter. If they give you a price upfront and you want it, go for it, but it will probably be higher than normally. However, you do not always mind paying $2 instead of $1. It is nothing, after all. Use Google Maps or other satnav app too, just to make sure the driver will not take you on a 20 mile trip to make more money out of you.
Bottom line, the Malaysian capital might seem conservative and difficult at first, but do not let it put you off. You can meet girls in Kuala Lumpur (and I mean quality good looking girls) if you use common sense and you hang around the right areas.