How to Pick Up Girls in Japan
Japan is among the top notch destinations for men who want to meet beautiful and educated Asian women. Sure, you can try Thailand or the Philippines for sexy girls who will see you as a god. These are the ultimate places to get laid within minutes only. Picking up girls in Japan asks for some research though.
Before we get started: You need to know what Japanese dating sites are legit. And if you are more focused on getting married I highly recommend you read my blog post about the pros and cons of marrying a Japanese chick!
Japan is a beautiful destination with an impressive culture. At the same time, Tokyo is the sixth largest city in the world, not to mention other massive cities in the country. But guess what? Getting laid in Koyoto was the easiest thing I ever did, so no need to focus on the tourist attractions at all!
You do have options when it comes to settling down and dating the local women, but do your homework first.
Thankfully, I am here to give you the perfect cheat sheet to date and mate with cute Japanese girls!
Few considerations to know upfront
If you look like a god in Thailand and you have no problems entering Vietnam with your foreign passport, things change when it comes to Japan. It is not the friendliest place in the world.
Of course, places like Tokyo have an impressive energy. You will always feel different there. But then, foreigners are not seen as gods in this part of the world, mostly because Japan is civilized and advanced enough.
For example, there are certain circles or nightlife places where foreigners are not really accepted. You will not find any foreigners there. Cultural differences are quite big.
Even if you manage to join such a circle, you might find it unusual because everyone has their own thing going.
The good news is getting laid in Japan is not impossible!
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Dating culture in Japan
The dating culture in Japan is different from the western world. Japanese girls are more conservative than western girls. You are less likely to get laid in the first night, unless you get an easier girl – hard to tell as you approach someone down the street.
In some cases, it might take a few weeks until you end up wrestling under your sheets – it varies from one girl to another.
Nonverbal communication is well seen in Japan. Girls are usually shy. When you go out with someone, she will not tell you too much about herself. Try to engage her into a conversation, but without making the date feel like an interview.
If you take a walk in a nice park and she stops on a bench to admire the view for a few minutes, simply do the same.
Public signs of affection are quite uncommon too in Japan. Girls do not expect you go touch their knees, hold their hands, hug them or even kiss them on a first date. Instead, you might have to wait for a few dates.
Of course, you have to pay attention to her signs. If she seems interested and starts touching you, you can go ahead and take it slowly.
Meeting new people can be challenging for the Japanese because the culture prevents it a little. People stick to their friends, families and work mates. Getting into a new circle involves getting a new job or a similar change.
However, as a foreigner, you are used to approaching girls down the street. You can try out your best Japanese pick up lines and they may work wonders, even if girls are not used to them.
Where to meet girls in Japan
Girls in Japan are everywhere. Look around and you will see doll face babes everywhere. However, there are some major differences between the day game and the night game.
Whether you want a serious relationship or you are just trying to get laid, you will find lots of beautiful Japanese babes during the day. When compared to the night game – dancing and alcohol, the day game is a bit more complicated.
While English is taught in school, not everyone can speak it properly. Young people are more likely to do it, as well as people in touristy areas or cities.
In other words, the day game is about communication. If you speak Japanese, your options are countless. If you cannot, you better hope to find an English speaking hottie.
So, what are the best spots for your day game? Simply put, look for areas with plenty of food traffic. The closer to city centers you get, the more beautiful women you will see around.
Busy subway stations make a good starting point. There are lots of people using the subway in Japan. On another note, you can also try out old town districts, touristy places and areas with lots of bars and restaurants. The same rule applies to shopping malls.
Here is a good tip on how to talk to Japanese women though:
Do not approach them in the middle of chaos – such as a busy junction, sidewalk or station. Instead, find the perfect girl and wait until she goes into a café or down a quieter street.
The night game is different. You can go into a bar to have a few cocktails, see a couple of beautiful ladies and go talk to them. Choose the one you like or perhaps make conversation and figure out yourself if any of them is single.
City centers and party areas make great starting points for the nightlife. Avoid places that look private, as there might be private circles in there – you will not be accepted. Just go where everyone goes.
If you are trying to get laid – no strings attached, you have a better chance with your night game. Girls are more open minded due to the partying spirit and alcohol. Do not expect wild parties like in western countries though. Instead, keep it decent.
The best part about the night game is that most Japanese girls do not go out alone. They will go with their boyfriends, husbands or circles of friends. In other words, you can tell which ones are single or likely to be single (in case they have a ladies night).
Types of Japanese girls
Understanding types of women will help you understand how to pick up girls in Japan, regardless of their age.
The general type is somewhere in the middle class. She studies in high school and university, maybe play an instrument and have basic hobbies. She works for a random company in an office. She speaks decent English and may want to get married at some point. This is the general type that most foreigners choose to date.
The social type does not study too hard, as she is lured by money making opportunity. She knows she can make money with her beauty, so she will most likely end up working in beauty, modeling or nightlife. She looks amazing and she will draw your attention right away, but she might trick you. If you got some money for you, you might have fun with such a babe – not something durable though.
The basic type does not look like a supermodel. She does not have superior education and she will work menial jobs. She is just a normal girl who may or may not speak English. Most foreigners will focus on the other types, but there are also guys who simply want normal girlfriends.
The better you become at understanding these types as you approach women, the more successful your game will be.
Approaching girls in Japan
A good game is built with time. You need to focus on two things. One of them is hunting – cold approaching beautiful girls.
The second thing is gathering – building a social circle to expand with time and meet as many women as possible.
When cold approaching beautiful girls, your results will depend on your actions. The more you do it, the more successful you become. If you approach three girls a month, your pipeline might be dry.
If you approach three women a day, you will have lots of dates and get laid with plenty of beautiful girls.
Most men are scared to do it. They try to come up with reasons to talk to a girl – terrible idea. Japanese girls like honesty. If you like her, that is a good enough reason to talk to her. If you really need a reason, ask for directions or ask a girl to read a text in Japanese for you – some instructions or so.
If you can choose between approaching a beautiful girl now and creating a reason, always approach straight away. The less time you spend thinking and creating scenarios, the more successful you will become.
Things are easier at night, as girls are more open minded. You can head to international parties, pubs, bars and restaurants. You can also do it online – just make sure you come up with a good conversation that will trigger her senses.
Online dating is a popular thing in Japan, but matchmaking is still number one – there are lots of agencies that will help you find someone should you expect a longterm relationship.
Getting laid in Japan
If you cannot be bothered pushing your game to another level and you just want to get laid, Japan has a few red light districts in big cities. They are a bit different from other red light districts in Asia.
For instance, no matter how appealing your new relationship with a stripper is, you are less likely to get laid just because you buy her some drinks.
Prostitution is relatively legal. Basically, classic penetration is referred to as prostitution. Everything else is legal – blowjobs, anal sex and all kinds of kinky activities.
You will see girls on the street making eye contact, as well as sexy girls in bars – especially in those places where you find lots of foreigners.
Love hotels are part of the game too – you can rent a room for less than a night. Bring your new “friend” over and have fun for a few hours.
When compared to other Asian markets, the Japanese one is a bit pricier – higher standards too. Sometimes, if you are not paying attention, you might end up spending the equivalent of hundreds of dollars without touching a girl.
If you are after a stag, simple go to a pink salon – specialized in oral sex – or hire an escort. You can also find so called prostitution agencies. Since prostitution is illegal, you will pay a nice fee to one of these companies and meet a girl.
The girl is obviously a prostitute, but you will have sex as a couple, rather than a client. The money goes to the agency that matched you.
Bottom line, you have to use your mind and set it right to pick up hot girls in Japan. You do not need to practice how to ask a Japanese girl to be your girlfriend, but be casual about everything you do.
Show some confidence and you will go in the right direction! 😉
Japan has a high ceiling, as well as a low floor. In other words, you can easily hook up with some beautiful babes who are out of your league and have the best time of your life. On the other hand, you can also spend lots of money and end up touching yourself in a hotel room.
Dating and hooking up have plenty of variables. The more you try them out, the more successful you will be.
Luckily, if this is not your strongest point, you can also pay for what you want – just make sure you do it right. As for dating and long term relationships, they ask for even more work, but everything is worth it.